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You are here: Home / Freelancing Writing / Sit Down, This is gonna take a while

Sit Down, This is gonna take a while

By Know-it-All Nikki 14 Comments

The last two weeks have proved to be interesting, stressful and unprofitable to say the least.

I’ll do my best to start at the beginning so bear with me if some of it doesn’t make sense.

Last week I finished up what I considered to be one of my first major projects in a long time. I’ve invoiced the client and heard from them over the weekend about a set of minor revisions that they want done to the project and a response from my reminder that I still had not received payment for the work. That was Saturday. What is today?

Last week was also spring break for the kids and me. While I was on spring break I tried to catch up on the school work that I am behind on (no dice), and some of my projects. The kids got a chance to get outside. I was racked with fear the lovely OH weather would stay uncooperative (much like it is today) and the kids would be cooped up indoors but they did get out on a couple of days and that made me smile (namely because the house got quiet).

I also decided to drop school…. Are you done yet? I can hear all of you now. It wasn’t a decision I wanted to come to but I looked at the rest of the schedules for my classes and I realized that even if I COULD keep up on everything, I would be creating very tight deadlines for school and writing. I hate not having flexibility (hint: why I became a WAHmom to begin with) so I am dropping both classes.

I can’t tell at this point if I will pick them back up in the fall, try for an online course or what I will do. It’s all too early to tell for me and I think that I was lofty in my belief that I would be able to juggle it all. There are too many missing pieces to make this work (and the gas to drive 40 minutes each way doesn’t help), I need to have more hands, more eyes and less noise in order for it to work and right now that doesn’t happen. A kid gets sick or I get sick and I am thrown totally off game. My van has had issues and that hasn’t helped and those issues (from the smell of things today) aren’t over.

I have also been in the works with someone helping me to get an unpaid debt from another writer settled. It’s the longest saga I have ever been a part of and it almost belongs on a blog of its own (or at least it’s own category). To say the least I went from getting payments via PayPal by the other writer to now supposed money orders by mail. I say supposed because I haven’t seen one yet. My contact in all of this sent me the email telling me that she (the other writer) sent payment on the 29th… Again, I ask. What is today? She still owes $81.

I’ve decided (and I still don’t know if its a good idea or not but I am in a leaping first and looking later mood) that if my mailbox is empty again tomorrow – I will be providing my readers with the information to discover who she is. I compromised on the original amount she owed and even did two other unpaid spec projects for her, the least she could do is finish paying me within a reasonable time frame. (For those of you not keeping track: this is April and I should have been paid last August). New comments by the other writer speak of my work not being usable and her having to rewrite them – Note: I kept a list of all my titles and original work, I copyscaped them all to be sure I wasn’t as crappy as she says and I wasn’t insane. Good to know I’m not either of those. (MUST. STOP. NOW. IRRITATION. GROWING.)

Because of the problems with my van and lovely people who don’t want to settle their writing debts, for the first month in I-don’t-know-how-long, I can’t pay my bills for the month. Not Good. Not Cool.

Various illnesses and even an accident with one of the kids at home (its ok now thanks for asking) will probably cause me to lose one of my clients. I have no idea if saving it is possible because I haven’t approached him but my contract hasn’t been renewed yet either. If any of you have an idea on how to save this relationship, I am all ears. I am all for the truth but my fear is that the truth makes me sound like one of those wham’s that blame the reasons they can’t hold up their end of the deal for the client is because of kids and I don’t want to be that person – no matter how true it is.

There is a bright side… I swear.

Regardless of whether or not I lose the client, since I won’t have the extra load of school I will be better able to stay on top of my current and future projects and I am even going to be able to sit down this week and begin work on one of two magazine queries. My goal (if things work out) is to get my daughter registered for summer camps with our area’s girl scout council. I am hoping to get Bug enrolled in the summer programs through the enrichment learning program for talented and gifted children and if I feel things are going well and I can continue to profit and catch up on the bills, then I would like to enroll Peanut in a preschool for a few hours a week this fall because he was really beginning to do well at the children’s center at the college and I hate him leaving that setting.

I probably could have put all of this into a bunch of separate posts but where is the fun in that?

Filed Under: Freelancing Writing, On Blogging, Working from Home Tagged With: anxiety, article writing, bills, Children, On Blogging, Penniless, random thoughts, update, ups and downs, wahm, worry, writing

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  1. Shannan P

    April 3, 2008 at 3:12 pm

    You know all of my advice and opinions already, just wanted to say ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

    Reply
  2. Shannan P

    April 3, 2008 at 3:12 pm

    You know all of my advice and opinions already, just wanted to say ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

    Reply
  3. Nichole

    April 3, 2008 at 3:16 pm

    I don’t care what anyone says about you – You’re a TOP NOTCH PAL! LOL 😉

    Reply
  4. Nichole

    April 3, 2008 at 3:16 pm

    I don’t care what anyone says about you – You’re a TOP NOTCH PAL! LOL 😉

    Reply
  5. Laura Spencer

    April 4, 2008 at 8:14 am

    Hang in there!

    Did you get your payments?

    Reply
  6. Laura Spencer

    April 4, 2008 at 8:14 am

    Hang in there!

    Did you get your payments?

    Reply
  7. Nichole

    April 4, 2008 at 9:58 am

    No Laura. Sadly I haven’t received payment from either client yet. If I don’t get anything from the other writer when I check my mail, I will make good on my promise to point others to where they can learn her identity.

    Reply
  8. Nichole

    April 4, 2008 at 9:58 am

    No Laura. Sadly I haven’t received payment from either client yet. If I don’t get anything from the other writer when I check my mail, I will make good on my promise to point others to where they can learn her identity.

    Reply
  9. Snowflake

    April 5, 2008 at 6:35 am

    Sorry to hear about school, I hope you will have the time to pick your courses back up in the fall. Hopefully, everything will turn out ok – sending you lots of love and positive energy! (((HUGS))) Snow

    Reply
  10. Snowflake

    April 5, 2008 at 6:35 am

    Sorry to hear about school, I hope you will have the time to pick your courses back up in the fall. Hopefully, everything will turn out ok – sending you lots of love and positive energy! (((HUGS))) Snow

    Reply
  11. Dana

    April 6, 2008 at 11:41 am

    It’s very wise to just step back and start fresh.

    You can go back to school later when you’re in a better mindset and you can pick up new clients one at a time as you get things rolling.

    Best of luck with all of it!

    Reply
  12. Dana

    April 6, 2008 at 11:41 am

    It’s very wise to just step back and start fresh.

    You can go back to school later when you’re in a better mindset and you can pick up new clients one at a time as you get things rolling.

    Best of luck with all of it!

    Reply
  13. Nichole

    April 6, 2008 at 12:02 pm

    @Dana I did register for fall just to make sure Peanut had a spot at their children’s center and if I need to change it, then at least he is all set.

    @Snowflake – Thank you! It’s all a matter of scheduling and getting comfortable with one thing before I take on another and I was foolish to jump with out looking first (I do that though sometimes!)

    Reply
  14. Nichole

    April 6, 2008 at 12:02 pm

    @Dana I did register for fall just to make sure Peanut had a spot at their children’s center and if I need to change it, then at least he is all set.

    @Snowflake – Thank you! It’s all a matter of scheduling and getting comfortable with one thing before I take on another and I was foolish to jump with out looking first (I do that though sometimes!)

    Reply

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I struggle to keep them straight or where they're going to be. I write them down in a paper planner, my wall calendar, and my phone's calendar. And I still wind up looking them up multiple times because I don't trust my brain's ability to recall.

I'm expected to write down detailed symptoms. I don't recognize symptoms as symptoms. It just feels like a Tuesday to me. But do try to have a normal life, the docs encourage: eat right, be active, get sleep. How do I do that and not wonder if what I'm feeling while I'm trying to be normal is a symptom?
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And then other times, like on this Monday, motivation arrives and it feels easy, like a special occasion you'vebeen waiting for. So you wear the anatomical heart earrings your daughter bought you and you don the gifted knit heart cowl your knitty BFF made for you and for a day you feel normal.
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Today kicks off the first day of #heartmonth. I st Today kicks off the first day of #heartmonth. I still think it's silly to only give one day, one month, or even one week to talk about heart disease. Alas, here we are. 

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Today's prompt is #BeyondtheDiagnosis. To me, looking beyond being born with a CHD means a few things:

It's the invisible things that can't be measured on a chart, like the fatigue, sadness for the health I wasn't born with, and the mental math of asking myself if I have enough energy for all I want to get accomplished in a week, or even a day.

It's being seen as a whole person; not the condition the doctors are treating. This a part of me, not all of me. I'm still a parent, friend, writer, a hopeless romantic. Yes, I'm a heart patient, I ALWAYS will be, but I'm also opinionated, stubborn, funny, and a person with real feelings. 

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#charliesworld #instacats #catsofinstagram #catsofig #housecatlife catstagram
The world is falling apart. The world is falling apart.
Head to the blog (link in bio) and read the latest Head to the blog (link in bio) and read the latest. I've been trying to figure out how to write this for 2 months now and I still don't know if I got it right.
.
.
.
#knowitallnikkimovestoohio #dtga #heartmonth #ACHD #adultchdsurvivor
Well poop, I missed day 4 (Early Answers, Lasting Well poop, I missed day 4 (Early Answers, Lasting Impact) and day 5 (How We Monitorthe Heart)! But it's fine! Because they both fit nicely for today's adventures which consisted of a carotid artery ultrasound (day 5) and a series of messages between myself and @nationwidekids to discuss how best to approach the weight loss struggle (day 4). 🤨😠

But it also ties in beautifully with day 6 of #heartmonth, #choosingjoy because despite all of the crap that goes along with being an adult with CHD, I am genuinely joyful. Some of comes out in sarcasm but I've told people if I'm not cracking jokes or inserting some token sarcasm into the day, then something is truly wrong. The last 2 years have been hard, but believe me when I say, I AM HAPPY and I'm wearing red today!
.
.
.
.
#ACHD #congenitalheartdefectsurvivor #WearRedforHeartMonth
I almost missed it, day 3 prompt for #heartmonth i I almost missed it, day 3 prompt for #heartmonth is #lifebetweenappointments 

Yeesh, where do I start? Right now my life between appointments is a little chaotic. The number of appointments has increased a thousand fold than what I was used to growing up.  There are more appointments now than I had when I was pregnant with all four kids!

I struggle to keep them straight or where they're going to be. I write them down in a paper planner, my wall calendar, and my phone's calendar. And I still wind up looking them up multiple times because I don't trust my brain's ability to recall.

I'm expected to write down detailed symptoms. I don't recognize symptoms as symptoms. It just feels like a Tuesday to me. But do try to have a normal life, the docs encourage: eat right, be active, get sleep. How do I do that and not wonder if what I'm feeling while I'm trying to be normal is a symptom?
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#heartfailure #congestiveheartfailure #congenitalheartdefect
Waiting. . . . #catsofinstagram #charliesworld #in Waiting.
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#catsofinstagram #charliesworld #instacats #catsofig #catstagram
Day 2 of #heartmonth is #motivationmonday. All I c Day 2 of #heartmonth is #motivationmonday. All I can say, is sometimes motivation feels like the end of a very long tunnel; a pinprick of light in an otherwise black abyss. Motivation eludes me more than I care to admit. When it feels unattainable I feel like the little girl I used to be, opening my eyes in a pitch black room, are my eyes actually open? Making my way across the room, arms outstretched, hoping I don't run into anything, or worse, fall. 
And then other times, like on this Monday, motivation arrives and it feels easy, like a special occasion you'vebeen waiting for. So you wear the anatomical heart earrings your daughter bought you and you don the gifted knit heart cowl your knitty BFF made for you and for a day you feel normal.
.
.
.
.
#congenitalheartdefectsurvivor #congestiveheartfailure #dtga
Today kicks off the first day of #heartmonth. I st Today kicks off the first day of #heartmonth. I still think it's silly to only give one day, one month, or even one week to talk about heart disease. Alas, here we are. 

I'm going to do my best to follow the 28 daily prompts for #heartdisease and #chdawareness but I make no promises.

Today's prompt is #BeyondtheDiagnosis. To me, looking beyond being born with a CHD means a few things:

It's the invisible things that can't be measured on a chart, like the fatigue, sadness for the health I wasn't born with, and the mental math of asking myself if I have enough energy for all I want to get accomplished in a week, or even a day.

It's being seen as a whole person; not the condition the doctors are treating. This a part of me, not all of me. I'm still a parent, friend, writer, a hopeless romantic. Yes, I'm a heart patient, I ALWAYS will be, but I'm also opinionated, stubborn, funny, and a person with real feelings. 

But most of all it's refusing to be reduced to number in the healthcare system, or someone else's discomfort.
.
.
.
#chdawareness
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